I work with people from all walks of life ...

As a Coach, Psychotherapist and Mindfulness & Zen Practitioner I have worked in both the private and public sector. My clients have included: artists, educators, managers, sports men and women, clergy, therapists, military personnel, entrepreneurs and business owners, parents, divorcees and students; my clients are as eclectic a mix as my own life experiences.

Having lived a full and varied life, with its ups and downs, I can relate directly to many of my clients' uncertainties and so can fully empathise with their difficulties. TheArtOfBeing introduces many ways of tackling such experiences for the best and most productive outcomes.

Leaders in their Field

I work with Business Leaders & Entrepreneurs who need support to ensure that their vision for their business is realised.

What are the issues, professional and personal, that prevent you from working to your optimum and therefore enhancing the business outcome?

TheAreOfBeing offers a range of effective communication skills crucial to develop leadership success. Resilience training offers the individual and teams enhanced outcomes. Read more.

As a leader there is the additional responsibility of overseeing your team and the work culture, ensuring it is conducive to wellbeing and in turn overall productivity. Read more.

New Job/Promotion/Return to work

For some, a new job or promotion can be a source of achievement and success as well as anxiety. Unsettling questions may arise such as: am I good enough? Will they find out I’m a fraud (imposter syndrome)? How can you be your true authentic self, being confident and at the same time knowing when to ask for help. Not knowing is not the same as being less than. Cultivating curiosity and understanding is a gift.

“in the novice mind there are many possibilities, in the expert’s mind there are but a few”

We will examine what is necessary and what might be interfering with your confidence to feel successful in your new role. What are your expectations of yourself – do they align with your values and your belief in your worthiness?

Are you experiencing workplace problems that lead to stress, and detrimentally affect your work/life balance?

Having delivered the HSE guidance on stress in the workplace and focusing on organisational stress (Center for Coaching) and individual stress in my MSc in Psychology, I am deeply aware of its negative effects at all levels within the work environment. My work in designing and developing a stress audit tool adds to my experience in this area.

We can work together to ensure your levels of confidence, resilience and assertiveness etc....

Newly Retired/Mature years

This can be a time of new possibilities and life changing events. Questions may arise around a sense of purpose. Challenges faced may include; how to spend your much awaited leisure time; changes in health, either for you or loved ones.
How do you navigate these new experiences?
How resilient are you?
How do you make sense of all of these changes?
What has been neglected so far that you can now attend to?

Lets work together to make this the BEST time of your life.

Acceptance and Renewal after: Divorce, Separation

"In our changing world its not unusual to have complex family trees and/or single households."

Acceptance might seem a million miles from your expectations of what your life would be. Whether you or the other person has initiated this separation it is still a huge change…often painful. It doesn’t help that nearly half of marriages end in divorce (not counting unmarried couples and separations). It can seem like an assault on the sanctity of family life and values – irrespective of who initiated it.

Reimagining a future without that person is possible – but how?

As single households increase new dilemmas may arise. For some it is bliss - doing what you want, when you want; for others this may led to isolation and loneliness.

Lets work together to find a way to be you, and look forward to a happy and fulfilling future, albeit different to the one you may have envisaged.

Parent/Adult Child Estrangement

In recent years parent/adult child estrangement, also known as the ‘silent epidemic’ has increased rapidly in modern society. Though this phenomenon has existed for thousands of years those who suffer it still feel it goes against every cultural norm. Some research report as many as one in five parents are estranged from an adult child. This is one of the most difficult and painful separations to deal with. Whoever decides this and for whatever reason the effects can be emotionally and in turn physically harmful.

Many of us have heard of the devastation and harm of child abuse and neglect: fewer recognise the pain of child to parent abuse – often emotional, unreasonable demands, threats, harassment, or worse.

So, how to navigate this?

And come to a place of acceptance, know you are not alone in this, and move on to live the best life you can.

Building Stronger Relationships/Personal Relationships

For whatever reason you either want your current relationship to be a stronger one; or a new, as yet, unformed relationship to be better than your last one.

Let us examine your expectations and how they might affect your feelings and behaviour. What are the triggers that have left you feeling out of synch with your partner? Do the same things keep repeating themselves either within the current relationship or repeated over many relationships? Do you feel trapped in certain roles in your relationship – parent, child, rebel, doormat? What are some of the issues you might be struggling with?
Perhaps you are selectively single and wanting to make the most of it.

What are the stories you are telling yourself?
Are you willing to examine and challenge them - start afresh?

Some common issues which may prevent you getting what you want can include:

• Lack of Assertiveness – can’t say no, saying yes too often. Feeling resentful but too anxious to say ‘no’?
• Holding on to past quarrels.
• Blaming/Being the Victim.
• Managing Stress/Anger.
• Repeating the same Habits – finding yourself unable to stop yourself from following the same habitual path.
• Reacting instead of responding.
• Unhelpful communication style.

Autobiography In Five Chapters

1. I walk down the street. There is a deep hole in the sidewalk. I fall in I am lost... I am hopeless. It isn’t my fault. It takes forever to find a way out. 2. I walk down the same street. There is a deep hole in the sidewalk. I pretend I don’t see it. I fall in again. I can’t believe I’m in the same hole. But it isn’t my fault. It still takes a long time to get out. 3. I walk down the same street. There is a deep hole in the sidewalk. I see it there. I still fall in...it’s a habit. My eyes are open. I know where I am. It is my fault. I get out immediately. 4. I walk down the same street. There is a deep hole in the sidewalk. I walk around it. 5. I walk down another street. Mary Oliver